Do you experience one or more of the following?
- Feel you drink too much
- Worry about how much porn you watch
- Feel sexually compulsive or out of control
- Worry about your recreational drugs use
- Worry about the type of porn you watch
- Feel you have a problem with Chemsex
- Worry you might be a sex addict
- Feel disconnected from people
- Feel guilty or ashamed about your sexual activity
- Feel you use behaviours or substances to escape
How counselling can help
Addictions, including compulsive behaviours, are often misunderstood. There is often an unhelpful focus upon the person’s behaviour e.g. watching porn or drinking excessively, and less on the nature of the addiction itself and why it’s there in the first place.
Counselling helps with both changing the behaviours but also to understand what the addiction is about. Only the latter will ensure there is a long-term and sustainable recovery.
Initial work focuses upon changing behaviours e.g. giving up drink and preventing relapses. Psychoeducation, including the latest developments in neuroscience to better understand the addictive process are often helpful. In time, a greater focus is given over to understanding how a person got to this place, and to develop ways of managing life’s difficulties in a healthier way Ambivalence at the prospect of change is often experienced so the motivation to change is frequently revisited.
If there is a desire to change, counselling can help provide the necessary support to make this a reality. This support can be both practical to help you stop, as well as therapeutic to help you stay stopped.